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It’s been on my reading list for months, and I’m so glad I didn’t let Derek Thompson’s piece The Anti-Social Century slip by. (Free archived view here.) It’s a long and sober but insightful assessment of why we’re spending less time with each other than in any other period we have records for.
The two technologies that kickstarted this retreat from communal life – the TV and the car – seem quaint compared to the arsenal of isolation tools at our disposal today. Our smart devices have transformed us so profoundly, we now live with the sad contradiction of being hyper-connected but desperately lonely.
“In a healthy world, people who spend lots of time alone would feel that ancient biological cue: I’m alone and sad; I should make some plans. But we live in a sideways world, where easy home entertainment, oversharing online, and stunted social skills spark a strangely popular response: I’m alone, anxious, and exhausted; thank God my plans were canceled.”
Thompson shows how this shift towards solitude is reflected in many ways today, for example how we design our living spaces. Modern homes aren’t just bigger – they’re being intentionally crafted for aloneness:
“‘In design meetings with developers and architects, you have to assure everybody that there will be space for a wall-mounted flatscreen television in every room’, he said. ‘It used to be “Let’s make sure our rooms have great light.” But now, when the question is “How do we give the most comfort to the most people?”, the answer is to feed their screen addiction.’”
As we enter the AI age, this disconnect will likely intensify. The emergence of AI companions – designed to provide us with emotional support without the messiness of human relationships – is already underway. Thompson anticipates a world where:
“These generations may discover that what they want most from their relationships is not a set of people, who might challenge them, but rather a set of feelings – sympathy, humor, validation – that can be more reliably drawn out from silicon than from carbon-based life forms. Long before technologists build a superintelligent machine that can do the work of so many Einsteins, they may build an emotionally sophisticated one that can do the work of so many friends.”
There is so much to quote from the piece but one thing that stood out to me was the notion of three distinct ‘social rings’:
“Home-based, phone-based culture has arguably solidified our closest and most distant connections, the inner ring of family and best friends (bound by blood and intimacy) and the outer ring of tribe (linked by shared affinities). But it’s wreaking havoc on the middle ring of ‘familiar but not intimate’ relationships with the people who live around us, which Dunkelman calls the village. ‘These are your neighbors, the people in your town,’ he said. We used to know them well; now we don’t. The middle ring is key to social cohesion. Families teach us love, and tribes teach us loyalty. The village teaches us tolerance.”
The middle ring is where democracy happens, where we learn to negotiate with people unlike ourselves. I’ve spent a lot of time in DD emphasising (and reminding myself of) the importance of this village layer of connection – those spontaneous encounters with neighbours, local shopkeepers and community members that texture our days with unpredictable human moments.
While Silicon Valley sells us ever more sophisticated tools for isolation, essays like Thompson’s remind us of a quiet counterculture brewing in spaces that prioritise presence over convenience: community gardens, repair cafés, food co-ops, co-working collectives. What seems like quaint holdovers from a pre-digital age has turned into laboratories for relearning what it means to be citizens rather than consumers, neighbours rather than users. – Kai
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Wikiwand is an AI-enhanced interface that transforms the Wikipedia experience, offering a sleeker, more navigable design with features like timelines, top questions and chat functionality with articles while maintaining Wikipedia’s core commitment to neutral, community-driven content. (Yes, it’s a commercialised copy, but it also donates a portion of its income to the Wikimedia Foundation.)
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A simple macOS tool created by indie developers to bring clarity to your financial commitments: Subscription Day is a thoughtful menu bar app to help you keep track of all your recurring payments in a clean calendar view, offering reminders and multi-currency support without storing any data in the cloud.
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Choosr is a social app that lets you pose questions and gather opinions from a global audience. I kinda miss the time when running fun social experiments like this was an integral part of the online experience. Now such platforms either turn toxic quickly or get abandoned because they don’t grow fast enough.
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Worthy Five: Kristoffer Tjalve
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An activity worth doing:
Reply to newsletters. The magic of email is that you can reply. Every writer I know values the replies they receive because it often feels lonely sending an email to thousands of people without hearing much in return. A simple thank you, hi, or a personal anecdote makes a difference in the writer’s day.
A newsletter worth subscribing to:
Dark Properties is your new favourite newsletter if you are a city dweller working with computers and dreaming of the garden as your horizon.
A podcast worth listening to:
Inventory-ing hosts long conversations about internet subcultures, like permacomputing, the poetic web and sneaker nets. If more media editors were listening, we might finally end the flow of articles declaring the internet dead. It’s not dead. It flourishes outside the walled gardens and infinite feeds. Start with the episodes featuring Meg Miller or Sean Thielen-Esparza.
A video worth watching:
One Minute Park shows hundreds of handheld recordings of parks. It feels like the definition of the internet. People uploading slightly shaky videos to create something idiosyncratic and heartfelt.
A recipe worth trying:
Lately, we have been obsessed with a simple cabbage salad we learned from our Australian friend Lucy. Here is how to make it: Thinly slice half a head of cabbage, then toss it with a dressing of olive oil, lemon juice, squeezed garlic, salt, and pepper. Grate a generous amount of Parmesan over the top, mix well, and let it sit for 10–20 minutes before eating. It should taste like heaven.
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Books & Accessories
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How to trade prestige for purpose
Blending moral philosophy with practical advice, in his latest book Rutger Bregman challenges us to align our talents and careers with a deeper sense of purpose. He calls on us to move beyond personal success toward making a meaningful difference in the world. “A guidebook to finding that path for ourselves, Moral Ambition reminds us that the real measure of success lies not in what we accumulate, but in what we contribute, and shows how we, too, can build a legacy that truly matters.”
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Creation, community and a melting world
A deeply personal and poetic account of a journey to Antarctica, exploring the fragile intersection of climate change, creation and community. Through lyrical storytelling, Elizabeth Rush reflects on motherhood, environmental loss and the urgent need for collective care at the edge of a transforming planet. “What emerges is a new kind of Antarctica story, one preoccupied not with flag planting but with the collective and challenging work of imagining a better future. With understanding the language of a continent where humans have only been present for two centuries.”
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Overheard on the Socials
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We’ve accepted that tens of thousands of people will die on our roads. If this were the airline industry or the maritime industry or the rail industry, there’d be calls for overhaul and change. But because it’s the road network, we just kind of accept it as collateral damage and we move on for fear of inconveniencing cars.
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Food for Thought
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In this longread, Derek Thompson explores how Americans (but really, all of us) are spending increasingly more time alone – at home, on their phones and away from social gatherings – creating what researcher Enghin Atalay calls a ‘century of solitude’. This profound shift, accelerated by technology and changing home environments, is reshaping our happiness, communities, politics and even perception of reality, despite mountains of evidence suggesting that most people would actually be happier with more face-to-face interaction. “Instead of focusing their 30s and 40s on wedding bands and diapers, they were committed to working on their body, their bank account, and their meditation-sharpened minds. Taggart called these men ‘secular monks’ for their combination of old- fashioned austerity and modern solipsism. ‘Practitioners submit themselves to ever more rigorous, monitored forms of ascetic self-control,’ he wrote, ‘among them, cold showers, intermittent fasting, data-driven health optimization, and meditation boot camps.’” (Paywalled – free archived view)
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Here’s another interesting observation about how a culture shift and design choice has made us more isolated: Tom Greene observes that, in the past, front porches fostered community interactions, but modern homes have moved social spaces to private backyards. This shift, along with new technology, has led to a loss of neighbourly bonds and communal living. “The doorbell is simply a metaphor for how we live our lives. We live behind closed doors, insulated from the outside world by layers and layers of technology. We barely know our neighbors.”
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The always insightful danah boyd on the different attitudes towards climate change we’re witnessing today. While beliefs still range from denial to acceptance, there is now a lot more dark variety in the latter camp, specifically the one focused on accelerationism, viewing climate change as inevitable and pushing for a rapid expansion of capitalism (as seen in the current US administration). “To protect the species, we should speed up capitalism to extract and hoard as much wealth as possible. That money grab will cause significant financial harm to individual people, but the ‘smart’ ones will cope. The next move is to invest that capital into advanced technology. This can’t play out in a slow way - this must be a massive economic push, akin to the buildup of going to war. Along the way, we need to find the smartest and most fertile people. Cuz soon, we are going to need to send people to Mars.”
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Aesthetically Pleasing
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Edward Burtynsky is a Canadian photographer documenting landscapes transformed by human industry, capturing the complex intersection between industrial growth and environmental impact. His work spans over four decades of bearing witness to humanity’s reshaping of the Earth’s surface.
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Alisa Lariushkina creates textured, three-dimensional landscapes using air-dry polymer clay, drawing inspiration from Impressionist painters like Vincent van Gogh and Claude Monet.
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A little house that slides opens to let nature in: Cabin ANNA comes with sliding exterior walls that transform this compact, off-grid dwelling from enclosed sanctuary to open-air pavilion, creating a fluid connection with nature while maintaining functionality within its minimal footprint.
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Font of the week: Artusi is a versatile transitional serif typeface designed as a homage to Italian culinary tradition, featuring seven weights with extensive alternates and OpenType features that convey a sense of craft and quality.
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Notable Numbers
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According to estimations by the Congressional Budget Office, the number of uninsured US Americans could rise by 13.7 million over the course of the next ten years due to healthcare legislation currently proposed or left to expire.
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By 2027, almost all new homes in England will be legally required to have solar panels installed during construction, under new government plans.
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Over the past decade, India has significantly reduced poverty. Extreme poverty (living on less than $2.15 per day) fell from 16.2 percent in 2011/2012 to 2.3 percent in 2022/2023, lifting 171 million people above this line.
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